Don’t: be a tragic thinker

I wish I were not a tragic thinker, but I am. I was second guessing what someone said to me the other day and my husband said, “why do you think the worst first?” Good point. He likes to assume the best scenario before thinking otherwise. I am not sure how I have became a tragic thinker and do the opposite of my husband. I coach others to think positively his way all of the time. I am generally a positive, happy person. When I consider going on a roller coaster though I have to play out a derailment scene in my head first. Crazy right? Since I have no psychological diagnosis for this I will blame hormones (my usual scapegoat) or consider it a mental safety mechanism. I do usually pray after I have these tragic thoughts. Maybe these thoughts are a way to make sure I talk to God especially in the scary or uncertain times. Quiet time with God helps calm my mind.  I went out in an inflatable Kayak today and sat in the middle of a 60 acre lake alone to pray and connect with God, but not before imagining that a large salt water shark lurched out of the water and chomped my boat. Old habits die hard.


  1. Dawn

    Love this! It makes my heart smile.

  2. John

    Darcy, I think you are wonderful person. I think God is going to use you to do great things. Also, I think your husband sounds like a pretty cool guy :)

  3. Laura

    Corey calls this my “incessant catastrophizing” and I am exceedingly good at it :) So in addition to my catastrophic inner monologue, I now attempt to put in another one that says–worry is lack of trust in God. Everything is going to be okay. One day I might actually believe this enough to stop with the ridiculous thoughts :) Thanks for normalizing what I’m sure we are all doing at some point or another!!

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